31 days of self love: Day 1

I was up scrolling in the night for inspiration …like I do 🤷🏾‍♀️ and I came across THIS

OH YOU KNOW I AM HERE FOR THIS HUNTY! YASSSSS! This is a challenge I’m going to fully participate in and promote across all my social media platforms. Self love is important! I know for myself I haven’t been the best at self love. It’s only been within the last two years and the birth of my youngest daughter that I understood with our self care you can not care for your family. You have to care and love yourself so you can care for and love everything around you. here’s day let’s talk about..

My biggest is I lack confidence. I may seem very confident online but in real life I’m 4’10 or 4’11 120lbs on a good day and my first instinct was to hide because my thoughts told me “You’re not pretty enough to talk those people and they don’t care what you have to say..besides you sound like a mouse on helium, no one human needs to be subjected to that.” I lived my life like that. Literally staring at people and making friends in my mind because I lacked the confidence to just say hello….. DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY FRIENDS I MISSED OUT ON! I lacked so much confidence in the past that I wouldn’t even reach out to my own friends because I didn’t “want to bug them, they’re busy they don’t want to hear about me.” Well that’s how loose friendships, when you don’t reach out and nurture out of fear and self doubt you miss out opportunities to build genuine friendships. Loving yourself is huge. I have been on a journey to love myself about 4 years now. I had gone through so many relationships and I wanted to be loved so badly and couldn’t figure out “why am I unloveable! I just want someone to love me for me!” Problem is I didn’t love me. I didn’t know me, or love me, so there was no way in the world I was going to have a healthy and loving relationship if I wasn’t healthy and in love with myself. I’ve worked hard on loving me part..I’ve thrived!!! I’m working on my confidence now..just simply stepping up and saying “Hello, I’m Shayla nice to meet you” my goal this month is improve myself confidence to the point I’m making friends at the grocery store and following through with those friendships.

I’m so excited by this find it must be fate. I’ve been dealing about with manifestation on my spiritual journey. One of the greatest keys to success is to love..love what you do, love who you are.

This is going to be a great challenge I can feel it.

What’s your biggest struggle with loving yourself? Comment below I’d love to hear from you.

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  1. My youngest sister shared this pin from Pinterest. I’m truly thankful she did. I have 4 sisters with 3 still living (I’m the oldest girl). My sister, Christa, is the one I confide in and she knows how difficult I have been taking the passing of our Dad 2-1/2 years ago. I’m single, never married and no kiddos. My parents and I lived together for almost 35 years in my home. My Dad had a very special place in his heart for all his kids (1 brother and 5 daughters), but especially for his daughters. He treated my Mom like a queen and me like a princess. I’ve been so depressed since Dad’s passing in December 2015 and I’ve not been able to pull myself out of it (even with medication). When I read this I had a warmth come over me and I felt as if this is an answer to my prayers. Thank you so much for sharing!


    • Oh wow that made me cry. I’m so happy you found this post! I’ve battled depression and anxiety most of my adult life. I lost both parents by the time I was 13 and my grandparents adopted me and my grandfather was my best friend/dad everything he died when I was 26 (I’m 33 now) but i went into a deep depression for about a year I just acted out. I write to show people they aren’t alone. I’m happy you found me! I’m giving you a hug through the phone. Grief is a tough thing. I’m still grieving there’s day it’s fine, three days I’m a faucet and miss my parents but I always know that I was loved and I was so blessed to have them the time that I did so I bring myself a little comfort with that. I’ll be praying for you new friend❤️❤️❤️


  2. My biggest problem with self love is putting me first! After losing 145ish pounds and making a promise to love me I still find myself questioning my body and the way it looks. Extra skin ect…. At one point I dropped past my goal weight and everyone said I looked way to skinny! But I loved it. Now I’ve gained 10 pounds past my goal and I’m not happy! I’m getting back in the gym so I can make the proper adjustments but I know my issue isn’t my size.. it’s my lack of confidence..

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    • First off congrats on the weight loss that amazing! That’s something not everyone can do that truly takes discipline so you are amazing!! It just takes small steps each day toward gaining confidence I’m still learning everyday. It’s not easy but it’s do able. Good luck on your journey with your gym time and your confidence!


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