31 Days of Self Love: Day 15

What are you afraid to ask for?

I’m afraid to ask for… HELP!. I’m not afraid to admit that I’m a bit of a control freak and I don’t like letting go. I like to know what’s going on and manage what’s going on. I’ve learned lately that in order to succeed you in life, a relationship, starting a business you have to ask for help. There’s nothing wrong with saying that you don’t know, you don’t understand and you need help. I love being a “super mom” I work, take care of the kids, the house and I cook them a meal after work…on top of this blog, influencing on social media and my fashion blog..I get overwhelmed..when I get overwhelmed I lash out😞 not often but it does happen. I need to learn to verbalize when I need help and to understand that it’s not a sign of weakened if I can’t do EVERYTHING. It’s a sign of humanity.

What Do you need to speak up about?

I need to speak up and say “I’m overwhelmed” I tend to assume that my fiancé and kids can look at me and tell I’m overwhelmed..they are not mind readers. This is life not an episode of “Blues Clues” I need to express when I’ve had too much. I need to understand it’s not some sign of failure if I need help. That’s a very hard thing for me to deal with. A lot of that stems from me being a single mom for a long period of time thinking I had to be perfect to appear perfect to others.. ALL the time. I’m from the suburbs and single moms kind of get put under a weird judge microscope. I just hate asking for help and appearing like I don’t “have it together” I’ve learned it actually shows more strength and maturity to be able to express that you’re overwhelmed and you need help. I think it’s way to late when someone can “look” at you and see a problem..when it’s that far.. it’s a problem.

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