I’ve never been one to shy away from the fact that I’m a feminist. A feminist by definition is simply
“a person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes”
I often hear people assume feminist “Hate men” No where in the definition of feminist does it say “person who hates men”I don’t hate men. I just want to be paid like one! I’m a nurse… male nurses make more simply because.. PENIS.
I also hear that feminist are whining. I’m not whining. I’m speaking from my own experience as a nurse. If I go to school and graduate. I should be paid what my male counterparts are paid. That’s it and that’s all.
Now let’s talk about sex. I am a human woman. That means I like sex… that I CONSENT to. I don’t care if I walk up to you like this
No one has permission to touch my body… unless I give it..there’s no other way around it. We’re in a time where men and women are basically being pitted against each other about what constitutes rape and consent.. when it all comes down to is this.. Ask for consent. No means no. No doesn’t mean ask another way or “she’s my girlfriend, she’s sleeping, it’s fine” or “we were drinking and on a date.. that means we had consent going in” No that’s not how any of that works. No means no. Sex after no.. that’s rape. No just because I’m feminist doesn’t mean I think every sexual encounter is rape.. on the ones that are taking sex against ones will are rape.
I’ve been raped three times from the age 17. I’m not going into details. The details don’t matter. I am in therapy, I’m healing I’ve forgiven those who attempted to take my power..I have tremendous power. NO ONE CAN TAKE THAT. I know What was taken from me was sex. Not my power. I never hated men but I never fully trusted the hands of men or the eyes of men after what happened to me. I’d be lying if I said I feel 100% safe around every man because I don’t. I know not every man has sinister thoughts. I’m aware not every man rapes so I don’t hate men.. I do hate the way some men think about sex. I think a lot of men think that way because society allows certain ideas and tones to continue, so I’m a feminist to end rape culture.
I make it a point to stand up against Slut-shaming. A lot of people chuckle and say “is that even a thing” Yes it’s a thing and it’s awful. Women can’t have sex or speak about sex without being labeled a slut. Yes it’s a double standard for the ages but it’s something I feel strongly about. Sex and being is a very confusing I have to be a “lady in the street and a freak in bed” and the two can never meet!🤭
Women should be allowed to be sexual beings and express sexual feeling without being shamed. I find myself defending women like Amber Rose
You can still be sexual and a mother! This constant “Hoe” talk in my opinion is so childish. Who cares what or who a woman does with her body! Why is it that we tie a woman’s character to her genitals? She’s immediately a bad mother because she likes sex and was a former stripper.. so was I and I love sex.. and I’m joining the PTA this year🤷🏾♀️
We should spend more time educating young women to be vigilant and assertive about their sexual health and needs. It’s ok to carry condoms. That doesn’t mean you’re a “hoe” that means you don’t want something itchy after you have sex! When I was dating I carried condoms. No shame. I didn’t want to be out there and have to rely on a man to bring contraception. No. If I was on a date and wanted sex I had condoms and I did NOT care about being called a “hoe” or a “slut” I’ll be slut with clean bill of sexual health ALL DAY LONG! I think we have to raise to level of maturity beyond high school and realize women are more than virginity, genitals and we have more to offer than our genitals.. and we like SEX! we tie so much pressure and worth to this act. Sex is very intimate and beautiful and fun! Don’t forget fun! but it should be safe and CONSENSUAL!
We should be just as open about giving our daughter condoms when they hit “that age” as we are with our sons. We have to teach our children to have the right mindset about women and sex. It starts at home. We are raising our sons and daughters to be the men and women of the next generation and that’s very important. I’m raising little feminist and I know it.
I want to make it clear I don’t want to be a man. I don’t want to be equal to a man. I love being a woman. I know and recognize and appreciate the differences between men and women. I don’t want to hit men, I don’t want men to hit me, I don’t to do away with Father’s Day. I think fathers are super important in the lives of their children. I think whatever roles work in your house is wonderful in my house. We can all cook. We all clean. We all take care of each other we are family.
I show my daughters that being a woman doesn’t mean you have to be in the kitchen, making sandwiches and having babies unless you want to. You don’t have to have kids. That’s beautiful.. but that’s not what makes you a woman. You don’t have to be a wife. That’s honorable but that’s not what makes you a woman. UNLESS YOU WANT TO DO THOSE THINGS YOU DON’T HAVE TO! I am raising my daughters to be strong to be the women THEY want to be not the what society tells them women have to be. I’m raising my daughters to chase whatever brass ring they want as long as it’s not an engagement ring! I’m not anti-marriage.. I’m anti building a life to ultimately please a standard. I’m a feminist for my daughters because I want them to like have the best opportunities and I want them to have the basic human rights.
Hell yeah I’m a feminist because I don’t get paid what male nurses are paid.. but I hope Brooke and Christy have equal pay when they grown. I hope all little girls have equal pay and rights… why doesn’t everyone want that?
This is a great post! You are so right! It’s a shame that we still need to talk about this in 2018 when my mom already told me in the 90’s that I can be whatever I want. But hey, baby steps. We’re still gonna get there!
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